Check out the whole series
This is part 2 in a blog series on how to build a more meaningful career.
- In Part 1: Redefine success, we explore the question, What do I want?
- In Part 2: Know your values (this post), I cover how to identify and prioritize your values by asking, Who do I want to be?
- In Part 3: Every action counts, we consider, What feels good?
Who do you want to be?
“This is the biggest tragedy in most people’s lives: many people know what they want to have, but have no idea of who they want to be.” – Tony Robbins
In her bestselling book The Desire Map, Danielle LaPorte proposes that we start any goal setting by identifying our desired feelings. She writes, “We have the procedures of achievement upside down… So what if, first, we got clear on how we actually wanted to feel within ourselves, and then we designed our to-do lists, set our goals, and wrote out our bucket lists?”
I’m a big fan of the KISS principle (Keep it simple, stupid!). So, I view life values and desired feelings as pretty much the same. I value gratitude; I want to feel grateful. I value health; I want to feel healthy. I’ll use these two terms interchangeably throughout this post.
Pick the method below that sounds the most fun and give it a try.
Below are 3 of my fave methods for finding the values (feelings) that are most meaningful to you. I invite you to pick the method that sounds the most fun and give it a try.
Consider what’s most important
In Awaken the Giant Within, Tony Robbins writes, “All you have to do to discover your values is answer one simple question: ‘What’s most important to me in life?’” He suggests brainstorming the answer to this question, then goes one step further.
What if you designed your life by choosing your values? He suggests, “Ask yourself a new question: ‘What do my values need to be in order to achieve the destiny I desire and deserve?’ Brainstorm out a list. Put them in order.”
What should my values be in order to achieve what I desire?
Consider how you want to feel
LaPorte writes, “How do you want to feel in each [area] of your life? Stream of consciousness is the way to go here.”
She defines five life areas to consider: livelihood & lifestyle, body & wellness, creativity & learning, relationships & society, essence & spirituality.
Consider the people you admire
Make a list of people you admire. They can be people you know personally, celebrities, historical figures, fictional characters… Take your time with this, and try to list at least 10 names.
Beside each name, list the qualities you admire in that person. As an example, I might write, “Ellen DeGeneres: kind, funny, generous, self-love, honest.”
Now read through all of the qualities you’ve listed and circle the ones that stand out. Maybe it will be listed multiple times, or maybe you just know it’s very important to you.
By examining what you admire in others, you’ve created a list of words or phrases that describe your life values.
Narrow it down and prioritize
Regardless of what method you used, you should have a great list of values and/or feelings that define who you want to be. Next, narrow your list down to three or four words or phrases. (Why? This is how many things we can easily hold in our mind at one time.)
Narrow your list to 3 – 4 values.
When it comes to prioritizing, Robbins again poses some great questions to ask. For each value, ask yourself two questions: “What benefit do I get by having this value in this position?” and “What could having [this value] at [this position in] my list cost me?”
Living these values is what will give meaning to your work, and to any aspect of your life.
Living your values gives your work meaning.
- In part 1 of this series, I show you how to redefine success in a way that’s meaningful to you.
- In part 3, I show you how to consistently feel the way you want to feel.
- The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul by Danielle LaPorte
- Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny by Tony Robbins
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